Last week I solicited mothers to share some of their thoughts pertaining to motherhood. I received some interesting responses. There is one response, which came from one of our sisters who does not have “natural” children. I want to share this with you before we look at the mothers’ responses.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a source to reference for these thoughts. Here is the substance of what she shared with me:
Bill,
I don't have 'natural' children of my own so I didn't respond to your request yesterday. However, when I received these this morning, I thought that perhaps you should have asked the children.
Have a blessed day,
-signed-
"Why God made moms" answers given by elementary school age children to the following questions… Be sure to read the story at the end…..
—Why did God make mothers?
1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
2. Mostly to clean the house.
3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.
—How did God make mothers?
1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts.
—What ingredients are mothers made of?
1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they mostly use string, I think.
—Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom?
1. We're related.
2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me.
—What kind of little girl was your Mom?
1. My Mom has always been my Mom and none of that other stuff.
2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty bossy.
3. They say she used to be nice.
—What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
1. His last name.
2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer?
3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?
—Why did your Mom marry your dad?
1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a lot.
2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.
—Who's the boss at your house?
1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because dad's such a goofball.
2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff under the bed.
3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad.
—What's the difference between moms and dads?
1. Moms work at work & work at home, & dads just go to work at work.
2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real power 'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your friend's. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.
—What does your Mom do in her spare time?
1. Mothers don't do spare time.
2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.
—What would it take to make your Mom perfect?
1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of plastic surgery.
2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.
—If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be?
1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that.
2. I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it and not me.
3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her back.
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This input from children really helps us gain insight into the meaning of motherhood, doesn’t it?
We must remember that not everyone sees this day as a special day. Some who wish to be mothers aren’t. We need to be sensitive to this. For some there are other issues related to motherhood. For some, those whose mothers failed to grasp the meaning of motherhood, this is a difficult day. For a larger number of people there is the challenge of adjusting to life after their mothers have passed away. We need to add an extra measure of sensitivity to others on days like today.
Since it is difficult for someone who is not and can never be a mother to explain what it means to be a mother, I solicited input for some of our sisters asking them to complete these three statements: (1) The best thing about being a mother is… (2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is… (3) If I could have three wishes they would be…
Now, let’s listen to how several mothers responded to the three statements I sent their way:
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1) The best thing about being a mother is watching my boys grow into caring, considerate, intelligent, talented, loving individuals.
(2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is the many difficult steps and perseverance it takes to get those results.
(3) If I could have three wishes, they would be for my boys become faithful Christian men; for them marry faithful Christian women; and, on some days, just a little more peace and quiet.
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(1) The best thing about being a mother is watching your children develop their own personalities. Seeing in them personality traits of other family members, hopefully good ones.
(2) The most challenging is to letting go. Learning when not to do everything for them and letting them fall sometimes, but always being close enough to help put the pieces back together again with our love.
(3) My three wishes …….First I would like to have had the wisdom to have instilled in my children a better understanding of God's love for them and an understanding of what their love for Him should be so that they one day should see him face to face and behold his glory.
The second would be to see my children pass that kind of love and understanding to my grandchildren. The third would be that others would know "that we were Christians by our love".
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(1) The best thing about being a mother is…aside from the hugs and “I love you, mom” is watching them grow and accomplish things that make you proud of them.
(2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is…letting go and watching them go through trials that you hope will make them a stronger or better person when they come through it.
(3) If I could have three wishes, they would be…that my children were Christians, that they would be successful in whatever career they choose and that the Lord would bless me with grandchildren someday.
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(1) The best thing about being a mother is… A bond of love that can weather even the worst of times and grows through each difficulty.
(2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is… Letting go and allowing your children make their own decisions even when you see they may be bad for them. Not getting too involved when someone is hurting your child, especially when your child is an adult and wants to handle it all on her own and you can stand to see her hurt.
(3) If I could have three wishes, they would be…More prayers than wishes: The first is that my child grow strong in her faith. The second – that she meet a christian companion and husband. That she finish school, becomes economically stable and is able to be with her son and the church more. I could go on but you only asked for three.
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(1) The best thing about being a mother is…seeing the children grow up to become great parents and servants in the Lord's church.
(2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is…understanding the world from the child's point of view so as to communicate better.
(3) If I could have three wishes, they would be…1) to have the children & grandchildren live closer to us; 2) to see them more often; and 3) to be able to help them solve the problems they face as parents.
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#1 – The best thing about being a MOTHER is —–"BEING A MOTHER"
#2 – The most challenging thing about being a MOTHER is —— Sometimes you are a Mother and daughter at the same time – This week I am in ____ with my mother and it is time to switch roles. She is legally blind and deaf and refuses to leave her home or have anyone stay with her. At the same time I am giving support to my daughter and her family as her husband prepares for a kidney transplant in a few weeks.
#3 - I only have one wish and that is that every woman that wishes to become a mother will get her wish and realize it is a blessing to be called, MOTHER.
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OK!
#1 The love you receive from your children. You give it unconditionally and they give it back in kind The pride you take in all their accomplishments no matter how large or small and of course, the grand children the greatest gift to any mother,
#2 Finding enough time to do all the things you want to do with your children. They grow up too fast.
#3 More time More grandchildren My children living closer to me.
Just a few thoughts
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1- The best thing about being a mother is hugs and kisses from your children….big children or little children. Hugs and kisses are the best.
2- The most challenging thing about being a mother is letting them fail. You want to help them in everything, but they cannot walk until they fall down a few times.
3- If I could have three wishes, they would be…
1- my children would follow God always.
2- love, joy and health for them always.
3- wisdom; both for them and for us.
One word for you, Bill. Mothers are incomplete without fathers.
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(1) The best thing about being a mother is… The overwhelming, passionate, loving feelings I get when I look at my son. Just watching him do everything he does just creates such a warm rush of overpowering love that runs through me. The deep well of emotions when I see his face makes my heart flutter and swell with pride and joy.
(2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is… Setting a good example in all aspects of my life for him to follow as he gets older.
(3) If I could have three wishes, they would be… 1) That my mom was still alive & well to be with and see her 6 daughters and 12 grandchildren that she loved with such a passion. 2) That my son lives a long healthy satisfied Christian life, with a passionate love for his church, family, friends, country and Christ. 3) That we are the sole winners of the next $300+ million Powerball jackpot. (Note: I don’t make the news. I just report it. -bw)
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(1) The best thing about being a mother is… watching your child grow and mature into a fine person, and on occasion, teach you something.
(2) The most challenging thing about being a mother is… balance. Being loving, but not suffocating; being strict, but not harsh; providing for, but not spoiling; giving them resposibility, but not overburdening; pushing them to achieve, but not squashing their spirit; helping them to understand God's will in an unGodly world.
(3) If I could have three wishes, they would be… More time to spend with her before she is grown; All the funds available to provide what she needs; The Strength and Energy to keep up and at the same time, have fun.
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These comments give us great insight into the meaning of motherhood from a mother’s point-of-view. Thanks to all who took the time to share their thoughts.
So, then, what lesson can we learn from the Scriptures about the meaning of motherhood? Where do we turn? As I’ve thought about this lesson, one scene and one idea has continued to pass through my mind. Let’s look at the passages which contain the idea first. These are:
(1) Luke 2:16-19, “So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.”
(2) Luke 2:33-35, “The child's father and mother marveled at what was said about him. Then Simeon blessed them and said to Mary, his mother: "This child is destined to cause the falling and rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be spoken against, so that the thoughts of many hearts will be revealed. And a sword will pierce your own soul too."
(3) Luke 2:51-52, “Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. And as Jesus grew up, he increased in wisdom and in favor with God and people.”
Now, let’s listen as the Apostle John describes the scene that playing in a loop in my mind this past week. We find it in John 19: 25-27, “Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother's sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, "Woman, here is your son," and to the disciple, "Here is your mother." From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.”
When I think about what makes motherhood meaningful, this scene, against the backdrop of Mary treasuring up in her heart the things that were revealed to her about her son. This really puts things into perspective. There Mary is looking up at her beloved son, who is in fact the Beloved Son of God. This scene really puts motherhood in perspective for me. A few observations related to what makes motherhood meaningful are:
(1) Motherhood is a way God brings blessings into the world…
—Realizing this is the way God has chosen to work, helps us to appreciate what an honorable and meaningful thing it is to be a mother.
—Years ago I was privileged to speak at my wife’s grandmother’s memorial service. As I reflected on her life, it occurred to me, even though I never really had the opportunity to get to know her, I was deeply grateful for her life. Through her God brought the world the blessing of two wonderful Christian women: my mother-in-love, Ann; and her daughter, my wife Telesa. Motherhood is a way that God has richly blessed my life!
(2) Motherhood is a way God cares for those who are dear to His heart…
—When Jesus wanted to express the depth of His love for Jerusalem, He chose to use the imagery of a mother hen: Matthew 23:37, “Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.”
—Paul did essentially the same thing: 1 Thessalonians 2:7b-9, “Just as a nursing mother cares for her children, 8 so we cared for you. Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. 9 Surely you remember, brothers and sisters, our toil and hardship; we worked night and day in order not to be a burden to anyone while we preached the gospel of God to you.”
(3) Motherhood is a way God prepares people to live into their life-purpose…
—Consider the following, which was written by Thomas Merton: “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
—Think about it, God entrusted the care, feeding and the spiritual nurturing of His Beloved Son to a young and apparently naïve girl who was probably still a teenager at his birth. In no small way, it was by her life and love that he was prepared for his life-purpose on earth. Motherhood is meaningful, indeed.
These three observations seem to make it that God is at work in the world through this thing we call motherhood. That makes it meaningful, indeed!